Discovering Your Sweet Spot: A soul-searching guide for life
About the book
In a society increasingly driven by the manic pursuit of externally visible rewards, this book not only underscores the need for greater purpose in our lives, but also elaborates on the inner journey of self-discovery that can help us create a truly meaningful life.
Written by a leading life coach, the book discusses a path for personal transformation that has worked for several others in discovering higher fulfillment, deeper relationships, better balance and greater peace and happiness in their lives. Founded in the belief that skills for being happier can be acquired, the inspirational insights shared in the book will empower you for the rest of your life.
Further, integrating the life lessons grappled with by the author, the book discusses the powerful balance between the apparent opposites of taking charge and letting go, doing and being, giving and receiving, and passion and detachment, towards discovering our personal sweet spot in life – the place where there is tremendous personal fulfillment, lightness, balance and happiness.
Advance praise for the book
"The profound insights offered in this book will nourish your soul and set you on a life-long path for experiencing deeper happiness. A must-read for anyone seeking answers to the most important questions of life."
~ Jennifer Read Hawthorne, co-author, #1 New York Times bestseller Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul and The Soul of Success
"A well thought out personal guide to coming home to one's own source of fulfillment, Rajiv Vij has combined his personal life experience along with his years as a personal life coach to show how self responsibility combined with the inspiration of a newfound life purpose grounded in helping others, is truly the path to personal mastery. I recommend this book to anyone yearning for real change, and for those who could use further inspiration to take the next important step toward manifesting their true life's work."
~ Paula Horan, PhD, Reiki Master and author of Fierce Innocence and Core Empowerment
"This neat, well written volume, talks about inner transformation and how this leads to a life that has deep meaning. Success - as defined conventionally - is a by-product of such transformation. It is a great reminder that our potential is unfathomably immense. We have to know this, acknowledge it and tap into it."
~ Srikumar Rao, PhD, TED speaker and best selling author, author of Happiness at Work
Excerpts from the book
On deeper purpose of life
The deeper purpose, it transpires, is the same for all human beings – it circles around undertaking the inner journey of self-realization; of building greater self-awareness and deeper understanding of who we essentially are; of conquering our own fears and anxieties; of experiencing love and compassion in all our dealings; of learning to be present in the moment, and eventually transcending ourselves. Once we grasp that and make it the central theme of whatever we do, the notions of happiness, balance, and legacy are no longer beyond reach. It does not matter what you do, but with what intent you do it that makes the real difference. Once we embrace this purpose, it reflects in how we conduct ourselves in whatever we do – in our professional and our personal life.
Such an alignment with a higher purpose results in staying committed to the process with the purest intentions, without any attachment to the result. It provides us with a higher meaning in everything we are engaged in. Consequently, we are less focused on how far we reach in achieving the external goals in life, but far more on the joy of being on the right path in our inner journey. Every activity in our day becomes an opportunity to make progress towards fulfilling this purpose – an interaction with a customer is then guided by a genuine desire to serve, without constantly eyeing possible personal gains; playing with our children is the time to love and nurture growth, with no expectations of controlling their thoughts or aspirations; volunteering for community activities is led by a deep sense of interconnectedness with fellow beings, without any judgment of success or failure of the effort. There’s never a moment then that’s devoid of the possibility of focusing on observing our own thoughts, emotions and actions, or dissolving our ego, and in the process living more consciously.
On the power of our thoughts
Furthermore, there’s an interesting insight about the universal intelligence that resides throughout our body. We already know that this intelligence forms the basis of functioning of all aspects of our body – be it the circulatory, digestive, neural or the hormone system. We don’t run our body, this intelligence does. The interesting thing is that this intelligence spread across our body cannot tell the difference between an actual physical reality and a mere thought. Thoughts are treated by the subconscious as real and they bring about the same changes in the subconscious as an actual physical event. The subconscious mind does not judge between ‘good’ and ‘bad’, ‘positive’ and ‘negative’, it essentially gets to work with the agenda to actualize the thought into new reality. Thus, a genuine threatening situation or fearful thoughts – both cause a similar stiffness in the body; actual gulping of a tasty juice or the mere thought of it salivates our mouth equally; practicing basketball on the court or repeatedly visualizing the shots in our mind has a nearly identical impact on the muscle memory. That’s how visualization techniques work so well. When we visualize ourselves to be healthy, abundant, calm and joyous, the neurons carry those thoughts (as if they are real) and make our body begin to feel that way.
What you are comes to you
We do not attract in our life what we want but who we are. In Ralph Waldo Emerson’s realization, ‘What you are comes to you.’ Our inner state dictates the thoughts and feelings we have. While we can work with affirmations and positive thoughts, it’s our core state of being that has a dominant impact over both, our actions and the inner reality we experience. The energy vibrations we attract are the ones that are synchronous to the energy vibrations we are operating at; the reality we experience is linked to the level of consciousness we are living with. The more conscious our state of being, the greater the chances of our becoming a channel for transmitting to – and receiving from – the collective universal consciousness. We experience greater harmony in our life then and things just happen effortlessly.
The sweet spot
The sweet spot can also be understood as the zone where things fall into place effortlessly and in complete harmony between our inner being and the external universe. It is the place when we feel balanced in every way – between, work and family, physical and emotional well-being, mental and spiritual growth, personal progress and supporting others, giving and receiving, and loving and being loved. It’s the zone where we feel challenged but in control, where we are learning and growing but are not overwhelmed, where we are open to new experiences but have the wisdom to assimilate them into our understanding.
Experiencing and living connected to this sweet spot impacts every minutest bit of our existence. At work, operating in the sweet zone translates to being engaged in a profession or a vocation that we love, enjoy, and find meaningful and rewarding. The work challenges and stimulates us and yet we feel confident and supported in being effective. If we enjoy the profession but don’t find it meaningful, we will sorely lack the sense of fulfilment. Similarly, if the work is meaningful but not rewarding enough, our frustration builds up. If the work is too challenging and we are not confident about achieving our goals, we feel overwhelmed; if it’s too easy, it becomes boring.
About the author
Rajiv Vij is a life coach and works with leaders from business, public service and the social sector, across Asia, to help them discover and fulfil their potential. Driven by a deep desire to seek greater meaning, Rajiv gave up an exciting corporate career to start a new life as a coach. He made this conscious choice towards better facilitating his personal journey of self-discovery, and through coaching, actively helping others with theirs.
Prior to starting his coaching practice in 2006, he served as Managing Director (Asia, Middle East, Africa and Eastern Europe) for Franklin Templeton Investments. Rajiv graduated as an engineer from the Indian Institute of Technology, Delhi and earned his Post Graduate Diploma in Management from the Indian Institute of Management, Kolkata. His website is www.rajivvij.com.
Twenty-five percent of the author’s proceeds from this book will be donated to Parivaar, a humanitarian organization focused on children, based near Kolkata.
Rajiv Vij’s articles
Rajiv writes a blog on the journey of personal mastery and has also been contributing regularly to The Speaking Tree column of The Times of India.
Here are links to some of his articles:
1. Overcoming the Crippling Thoughts of ‘Why Me?’
2. Yeh Dil Maange More
3. The Grand Illusion
4. Altering Your Karnic Cycle
5. Are You Following Your Calling?
Where to buy
Published by Hay House, and initially being launched in India, the book is already available on a number of online stores in India. To place an order for your copy:
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